7 Spiritual Cop-outs That are Kicking your Ass in Life

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I think all this triple eclipse, lion’s gate, and mercury retrograde whammy has been making me nostalgic and maybe a bit feisty. Therefore this brings me to a topic that has been rising in my heart lately: 

Spiritual cop-outs and why they can kick your ass in life. 


Mainly this is from my own personal experience but time and time again it blows my mind how common we let spiritual cop-outs keep us stuck, often unfulfilled or dare I say it just plain miserable. 

First, What is a Spiritual cop-out? 

It’s mainly about using spiritual dogma as an excuse to avoid responsibility over our life and our choices.

We could call this a form of spiritual bypassing but I think it’s moreso a cop-out. 
 
I realize I’m bringing out a tough love topic. At first I was like, Nah maybe I shouldn’t share this…. but then I was thinking about how much these lessons have impacted me and so I decided hey it’s retrograde, let’s roll with it.

First I’d like to mention that this message is coming from a place of love and personal experience. If I’m triggering anyone just know that I’ve committed ALL of these cop-outs so It’s not like i’m pointing a finger at anyone.  If anything let’s just laugh about it together because fear is ridiculous that way 😉 

This post is moreso about opening up your Awareness and giving you a kick in the pants perspective shift on the ways we can get really sneaky with spiritual cop-outs. 

7 Spiritual Cop-outs that May be kicking your ass in life

These are the top seven that I have seen and experienced that really need to be brought up in more spiritual circles because dogma is dogma however you put it. 

1. AFFIRMING YOUR WAY TO YOUR DREAMS

Shout out to my favorite coach Andee Love for this amazing truth. 

Affirming Alone won’t move the  mountain. Okay it may move the mountain but it’s going to take a freaking long time if you’re just waiting for the mountain to move by itself without even pushing it. 

Here is what I have learned, Affirmations and mantras ARE amazing ways to start training our mind. They help us get back into alignment and rooting for the positive vibes is never a bad thing.  I love me some mantras, I do them all the time. 

Affirmations can work if you put thought, energy, time commitment, feeling and ACTION behind them.  However don’t affirm all day long and think magic will happen just by writing something a gazillions times.

Been there, done that.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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That can turn into wishful thinking if you are affirming and not taking any action or you are affirming, vision boarding and not asking yourself at the same time:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What needs to change & what is a step in the right direction to feeling better?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Every tool can work if you choose to Work it and activate it with your energy. 


SOUL MEDICINE

Embrace the Mind-body connection. Affirming works but honey you gotta work it.

Ask:
What is one action step that can move me forward?⠀⠀⠀

2. SURRENDER MEANS I AM POWERLESS OVER MY CIRCUMSTANCE 

Things happen. Circumstances happen but your energy is ALWAYS stronger than circumstance. When we choose to feel powerless and wave the surrender flag –  you’re in the same camp as whispering to yourself,  ‘I go where the wind takes me’

I gotta call this b.s.

Maybe I’m in the minority but ‘Jesus take the wheel’ isn’t my vibe.

You are a POWERFUL co-creator and let’s OWN up to it. When we use surrender as a cop-out, you’re practically saying ‘I’m waiting for my mommy’s permission slip’ that says it’s okay to do what I want…um, what?

Surrender doesn’t mean giving up, feeling powerless, or feeling like a victim. 

When we surrender to Universal Guidance, it’s more like a game of tag team. It’s a co-creating process. 

(I’m seeing this vision of angels playing tag lol)

It means I am willing to be guided but I will also do my part by doing everything I intuitively know how to do. It’s about meeting the universe half-way. Maybe the book randomly falls off the shelf but aren’t you still the one who’s willing to read the book?

You’re the one making the moves, which also means guidance will come the moment you actually MOVE usually not the other way around. 😉 

Surrender means I am willing to be Led by my heart but let’s do this together.⠀Let’s team up and RISE up together!⠀⠀


SOUL MEDICINE:
Stop giving up the wheel. It’s a co-creation process.

Prayer:
Thank you universe for guiding me about….I am willing to do my part, I am ready to be guided to see my next steps differently. 

Listen to your intuition, Go take the first step!



3. WAITING FOR SIGNS WHEN YOU KINDA ALREADY KNOW THE ANSWER

Interconnecting into the previous, signs are great but I’ve also been the person who is like trying to calculate numerology in my head and make it into a sign so I give myself confirmation….

And believe me synchronicity is REAL and truly does happen, not discrediting massive in your face alignment, deja vu and divine confirmation. 

but there is a point where it’s like:  Do I really need a sign or do I just need to decide something and get over it?

Indecision is an imbalance of the third eye and no wonder it’s also the chakra of intuition.

When we don’t feel in tune with our intuition we overcompensate our energy into assigning meaning into things when we don’t HAVE to.

There is no one to ask permission to…it’s YOUR decision.

SOUL MEDICINE:

Stop waiting, the moment will never be perfect…take the leap!

Stop waiting for the sign and just go take the leap.  You already intuitively know the answer so why keep doubting yourself? 

4. BLAMING OUTSIDE FORCES AS A WAY OF STAYING “ENSLAVED” 

Get out of the matrix Neo! No seriously…there are action takers and then there are excuse makers.

Blaming anyone I don’t care if it’s the government, God, The Illuminati, or the new age kool-aid, it’s still blaming someone instead of taking responsibility for our life. 

It’s duality b.s. of the old paradigm. 

I think we get stuck in justifying this mentality because  we often feel ‘powerless’ and need to justify this feeling. However we are ALWAYS in control, it’s just a matter of what perspective you’re choosing to see reality. 

Free will is free will is free will. 

Do you feel enslaved buying your groceries to nourish your body? 
Do you feel enslaved having financial support?
Do you feel enslaved having affordable housing and shelter?
Do you feel enslaved buying clothes for your body and home necessities to live better? enslaved by your phone and nice computer?
I’m guessing probably not, these are things we take for granted.

It starts to feel a bit silly in some ways…

I mean we can say and blame the government for things but at the end of the day, it’s still just your perception of how you choose to see it. It’s neutral in that it’s all energy. 

Take The Time, Energy, Focus and Mental Discipline to Find a Perspective that Serves you.

The more we focus on what we do want the closer we ALIGN with energizing a higher truth.

Change your perspective, change your story.

SOUL MEDICINE:

Everything is Choice. You always have the ability to Change your Perspective. 

Try this on:
Substitute Lack for An Abundance Mindset.

“There is never enough __________”
Everything replenishes and refills itself because life is naturally abundant. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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5. THE BELIEF SOMETHING IN A PAST LIFE “CURSED” YOU or “BLOCKS” YOU IN THIS LIFE

The only thing holding you back is your b.s. holding you back. When you feel stuck, saying you feel stuck may be what is keeping you stuck. 

*mindblown* 

I have fallen down the rabbit hole of limited belief b.s. and it feels like searching for a mystical pill in Narnia trying to “Fix” myself.

Stop believing that every single limited belief is stopping you. 

I’m really here to lay it down on the table. I think blocks are really just excuses holding us back from actualizing our full potential. 

Why? because I noticed every time I get caught up in fear – It feels like this *crazy over the top, if i did this I might die?!* feeling and then you do it and…

“Wow that really wasn’t so bad,  actually that was easy?” 

It’s the same feeling of diving off the pool ledge. 
Having sex for the first time
Or driving your first car

Change is scary but exciting and even a little sexy…

And a huge MEGA piece of this, when we blame all the karmic BS for holding us back, we’re in  this mystical idea that if we find the magical pill (probably in Narnia) we will be saved and all the negativity will float away…

Negativity is part of experiencing emotions as a human…It will happen as we continue to grow – It  is normal. 

Repressing our emotions is NEVER a good thing but it doesn’t mean we throw ourselves a pity party by needing to bask and marinate in it either….

Getting over our b.s. is really just that.

Getting over the b.s. (belief systems that stop us)

SOUL MEDICINE:
Stop feeding the Excuses. Stop feeding the fear.
 
Ask & Evaluate:
What B.S. Beliefs are holding me back from moving forward?


6. HAVING DESIRES IS “BAD” THEREFORE IT’S WRONG TO MANIFEST WHAT I WANT.

What is that? Stop punishing yourself and justifying why you can’t have your desires! 

It is human nature to have desires, even deepak chopra says that lol. 

Can I just say that this is something I ACTUALLY believed – wow isn’t that so miserable? I’m making fun of myself here. Fears are funny remember 😉

There seems to be this b.s. belief about Having desires as a spiritual person is wrong. This usually goes along the lines of “manifesting what you want is selfish” or material possessions is “bad” “unspiritual” or “wrong”. 

I call b.s.

Okay first, let’s think about this. Where do you think Desires even come from? 

Desires come from our higher self. Our desires come from the divine.

I mean where else could they come from, the devil? 😛 

You are worthy because you are. 

We don’t need to justify why we want to have a good life, increase our values or buy something for the sake of buying it. 

SOUL MEDICINE: 
Desires increase our personal value and fulfillment.

Take Action:
Invest in Yourself to Notice How GOOD it feels to energetically Invest in your Desires. 

7. THE ANSWERS ARE ALL INSIDE OF ME, THEREFORE I DON’T NEED EXTERNAL HELP. 

Let me tell you something, I’ve done a lot of exploring inside of me, including drug trips, dmt, mantra meditation, kundalini yoga, daily sadhana, sobering up and even for a time lucid dreaming – but if I’m 100% honest I didn’t get here alone. I had TREMENDOUS help,

It’s called perspective.

I think it would be a bit arrogant to say that this journey is a solo experience or that awakening is a solitary experience. 

Because it’s really not?

And if you DO think it is, please take a minute to look around you at the real world you exist in. The people around you are helping you every day.

Whether that is on the internet, in your home, at work, your friend circle, your children or maybe even your spiritual books on the shelf. 

There’s this beautiful thing called the Ripple Effect and if you’re awakening especially, you’re in it. 

I’ve had books, spiritual events, coaches, trainings, spiritual friends around the world, mentors and tons of internal work from implementing that work from those teachers because I’ve asked for help.

We are a Hive-mind, so don’t think for a minute you are at this alone. 

There is an interesting thin line between the realization of you have your blinders on and being willing to surrender to change by asking for help.

Sometimes you need an outsider’s perspective and an open-mind to be open to finally change and release some stubborn limited beliefs.

ahem excuses

I’m saying this from personal experience, I’ve had fears I didn’t even KNOW I had until investing in a coach who was able to open my blinders about something I was missing.

The beautiful thing is I set the intention and this person literally came into my awareness out of NOWHERE. 

This is what opened up my possibilities to change 

That’s how cool this co-creation stuff works.

However I have been the stubborn mule, numerous times on my journey. I have been the person who was all “I never need help, I already know all of this, I got this.” My arrogance piggybacks onto a radical lesson on the spiritual path that I’ve talked about before:  The illusion of Control.

Also I  know that being stubborn and arrogant really won’t get you what you want.

That life gets mega easier if you are asking the universe for help, asking your friends, spouse, children for help and everyone starts co-creating as a team together. Your learning will accelerate the moment you get out of your own way,  tap in, ASK and tune in.

And sometimes you really need that ROAR saying:


“get the eff out of your own way so you can be open to see the radical lesson that will move you forward.”

  • That book youve been refusing to read,⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
  • That teacher showing up in your inbox,⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
  • That conversation that bugged you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
  • someone who makes you triggered af⠀
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    That is all your teachers. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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When we set the intention to learn we will be led and we don’t do this alone.
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We didn’t get here alone, we may carry the answers inside of us but the universe is always nudging us & redirecting us towards a teacher when we stray.⠀

And Believe me when I say, we all stray – It’s a part of the process called growing, expanding and evolving
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When you stray, you find someone who is carrying the light.
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To all my Teachers, ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
You helped carry the light for me when I couldn’t see.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Then I began to see.
We’re all guiding eachother home 

Choose to be humble and honor your teachers.  🙂


SOUL MEDICINE
Be Willing to Accept Change & Get out of your own Way
by Asking for Help whether that’s spiritual or real people.
Honor your Teachers. 

Journal on Empowered Question:  
What is one thing I am refusing to see? I call on higher self to guide me about….


When we are open-minded and willing to change, we can learn a lot about ourselves.

but most of all we can change the story around, empower our vibrations, get out of the b.s. that holds us back  and start kicking ass in life 😉 


What’s your Soul Takeaway? I’d Love to hear about it in the comments!




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Ashley is the founder of The Awakened State, where she helps others understand the process of Kundalini Awakening through tools, exercises & personal experience. Her mission is to guide others to discover their unlimited potential and how we can move beyond our fears to create New Empowered Paradigms. She teaches others to Dismantle Resistance,Live Beyond Fear and Start Awakening Their Inner Creator. When she’s not blogging,she’s netflixing with her man or playing with her two crazy little ones.
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  • Sousahne Mayes

    Hey..good blog. However, you have heard about Gabrielle Bernstein and her book, The Universe Has Your Back? She has a chapter in there called, When you think you’ve surrendered,Surrender more. I totally agree about confronting our bs beliefs etc and taking steps thr responsibility, but there is also a thing called the Divine, besides our higher selves, which I sense you don’t have real experience on, therefore you’re not yet fully awakened. Read Gabby’s chapter on surrender, view the wonderful balance.
    Sousahne

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