Accepting Other’s Journeys

— tomasorban

As i wrote previously you cannot change your parents, even if you want to 😛 You have to accept them and respect that they are on a different path than you. It is wonderful that you want to help your father but you cannot change him, he must WANT to change. This works the same way in any relationship and that’s why many of them have so many hardships, people try to change the person to fit their views and their opinions instead of accepting them for who they are as a person themselves. So your dad’s way of meditation is by watching sitcoms and wheel of fortune, that is okay that’s his choice, that’s his free will, not yours. This attitude about wanting to change him to fit your views even if you believe it will benefit him for his own good is still his choice, not yours.

Therefore there is no need to feel this urge, sometimes we have to just realize that we have to let go of situations that are out of our hands. It’s like you can be there for them and talk to them and guide them but you don’t walk their path. That is something to realize with anyone in your life, you are you for a reason but even as a teacher you guide, you don’t control. Of course you’re struggling to change him when he doesn’t want to be changed in the first place, we can only truly be there for our loved ones but we cannot decide their fate and direction in life. Sometimes things are truly out of our control, believe mei know lol. However this seems to memoreso an object of ‘letting go’ more than anything, let go of the idea that you can ‘change people’ that you can make him better and realize that true healing will always be within. I mean part of this blog is about advice and guidance but i’m not the one healing you, you are healing yourself. I can give your canvas, but you have to paint the picture. So let go of this idea and instead just love your dad the way he is, even if drives you a little crazy sometimes. Our parents generation is not the same as ours, we are more open-minded and ready to embrace new ideas and innovation. Our parents generation grew up under mind conditioning. and thinking in a boxed in way and we have to accept that. Everyone truly plays their part, this seems like a solar plexus issue to me ;)hope this helps

Namaste

Ash