Hi! I dont know what to do. My father is very difficult to deal with. He has made a lot of money in his life and he is very self centered. He can sit there and talk poorly about me to my face for over an hour without me saying a word. He basically is having a conversation with his ego about how he is upset with me because I do poorly in school. He will never admit he is wrong and is extremely negative and will refuse to ever believe in anything both good or bad. Its so infuriating. what can i do?
Develop sympathy and compassion by realizing that that all this anger he is projecting onto you is resulting from an internal conflict within himself. Our body works like a torus we give and receive energy back and forth so when there is an internal problem we will unconsciously project it out into the world around us and to whoever is around us. As inner so outer.
In this given situation you’re honestly better off to just let it go in one ear and out the other, if it doesn’t benefit you and he keeps trying to feed the negativity to your soul, what is the use in processing the information? Simply don’t let others opinions get to you, it’s hard sometimes, ego is tricky like that but if it doesn’t resonate positive and if it isn’t resonating FOR you but against you. It is the illusion of ego trying to bring you down. We have to realize that our parent generation grew up this way, through material possession and striving for success, it’s learned tendencies of all they know. They don’t know the other side like us and for that we must learn compassion at this time. He may be projecting all this anger at you but It doesn’t mean that he still doesn’t love you. Find the common ground and accept that other people especially the ones we love can and will have different opinions/beliefs/ philosophies than what you perceive within your own reality. However we don’t have to banish them from our lives but merely realize that these are stepping stones of growth for us to realize we must transcend the ego into soul even if it’s resulting from an outside source, no especially if it’s resulting from an outside source. Know that you are always at peace within the present and you must not let what your father tells you get to you. pretend you have a shield, a bubble where all the negative emotions just roll and bounce off of you as if it doesn’t matter.
This is also a solar plexus issue, control of your life, inner power, know that you are the one that carries your own life force no one else and you need to establish that you carry your own opinions that suit your wellbeing, no one else will.
I believe we’re helping eachother today because i go through a similar thing with my own parents. I’m an only child, 23 years of ago and they STILL want to try to control me thinking i’m still a young girl. I don’t know how many times my mom is trying to get me to find a new job, make sure my hair looks pretty, decide my major for me, try to pick out my boyfriend for me, tell me how i should dress, etc. ugh it IS infuriating but you know what i do? i question her back now because i’m stronger. I tell her i love her but you can’t make all my decisions anymore, why would i want a new job if i’m happy at the one i’m at? I enjoy my hair like this, it isn’t your hair, so what’s the big deal? and so on. So honestly next time this happens, really ask him why and be sincere about it. fighting anger with anger will get you no where but fighting anger with truth and inner control? Now that’s where you realize you are standing your own ground.
Hope this helps
much love and healing light <3