How to Deal with Depression

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I am struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts, have been for ten years. it is a rough battle because when it doesn’t have me in its grip I am a very positive, grateful and giving person. helping other people gives me the greatest joy. when I am not doing so bad I try my best to be a beacon of light for others who are struggling. some days are great and i can do this, I thankfully have the best friends I could ask for, but sometimes I literally can’t sleep and can’t get out of bed and can’t bring myself to even shower for a week. do you have any recommendations for coping with this? any chakra stuff or stones known to help or anything at all? I’m just reaching out right now because I’m in a dark place and I know I want to survive but it’s sometimes hard to remember. thank you for reminding me that there is good in the world.

— forestfeet

This one really touched me, I remember speaking to you in the past about your family so i could see how that could be very hard on you especially as you’ve transitioned throughout your life. In my own past i’ve dealt with self-mutilation which i’ve battled successfully over the years partly due to my own awakening experience. My fiance has also dealt with depression most of his life and attempted suicide.  We both are doing sooo much better now, it’s taken a lot of reflection and mind exploration to get here. So i can certainly relate to where you are coming from… It’s a dark place to be but what i see here is you give yourself to others but forget to give to yourself. Self-care is immensely important. Being a mother and also running a Q&A blog has taught me you can only give so much but you have to give to yourself otherwise you will run yourself into the ground completely neglecting your health, your well-being, your hygiene, etc. Sometimes you earn that bubble bath believe me 🙂

In my experience, The number 1 problem with depression is lack of self-love. This is the huge one. The 2nd problem is lack of self control and self-pity/playing the victim. When we play the victim we’re putting everyone’s accountability about our circumstances on everyone except ourselves. When we aren’t taking accountability for our actions we suffer placing the blame on those around us. We say things such as ‘my parents did this to me therefore i am like this’ when in reality it’s all about your CHOICE. It’s a solar plexus issue. The 3rd problem is inability to relate to others via egoism. The 4th is feeling you are the only person in the universe via depersonalization/dissociation. Nothing is real therefore no one exists except myself which is farthest from the truth. The 5th which ties into number 1 lack of love for others. Granted everyone can experience depression in different ways these are usually the main causes behind it. 

I personally believe pharmaceuticals are merely band-aids they help control the symptoms but they don’t cure the source of the problem. Therefore you can take all the pills you want and it will help, However it wont cure the entire illness. Therefore i’ll recommend a few things that can dramatically help you.  

  • LOVE YOURSELF – I cannot cannot stress this enough, it is hard sometimes, but you have to appreciate yourself, because if you can’t touch your own heart, how are you supposed to touch other people? You have to love yourself otherwise the entire world is out to get you, your vibrations are low meaning your thoughts are low your feelings are low, you are numb and empty. Appreciate yourself, what are you good at, what makes you happy, what do you do for fun, what do you like about yourself, appreciate your body, your soul, your mind, If you can’t open the heart chakra, your energy will suffer for it. The heart is the bridge connecting us to both worlds, both physical and spiritual. It is the key to personal happiness and healthy relationships <3
  • CONNECT – Connect with people, if you are spiritual find a fb group if there’s no one local, connect with friends, with family, tell them your hopes and dreams, feel people with your heart, listen, Connecting with someone makes even a bad day a little better. it’s all about connection, when we don’t connect we are caught within our own thoughts and feeling in a cyclic pattern of recycling emotions. It’s blackhole energy. don’t get stuck in your own blackhole 😉 
  • RELEASE – Let go. The only person holding you back is YOU. You have the power and the strength, depression is only a state of mind, there are thousands of others to choose from, choose happiness choose peace. If this has something to do with the past. let it go. release it. visualizing yourself letting it go down the drain all your worries, all your anxieties, all your fears, just let it go. If we don’t release what doesn’t serve us it creates energy blockages and these blockages can transform into illness, bad health and mental illness. You have to release this. Try a Banishing Spell. Write what you don’t want to have anymore write every thought and feeling that is causing this depression, then burn it and let it go into the wind. I personally find writing to be a catharsis, Release these energies creatively if you don’t feel like burning something. Find some form of release and this will free you.
  • CHAKRAS – And one of the most important things i personally believe will help ANYONE is learning about your own energy body. Research into it, you will blow your own mind with what your symptoms are and how it correlates to the solar plexus, heart chakra and third eye. I don’t know your own story but through my experiences i do know what depression does to the soul, you need to find your light again. Through Forgiveness, inner strength, releasing and Letting go of this.

The main chakras it affects are the Solar Plexus which deals directly with our happiness and moods, our will power, how we direct our will of action into the world, how we personally see ourselves, the maturation of the ego/Identity. Our Anger and our control of our lives.

The Heart Chakra is about forgiveness, forgiveness of your family, forgiveness of yourself, forgiveness of anyone who has hurt you including yourself. The heart is the bridge connecting the lower and the higher chakras, it’s heaven uniting with earth. When the heart is closed our higher chakras are unstable because there is no bridge between them. The heart is about self-love, love of others, giving and receiving, finding the place where you feel comfortable in your own skin and acceptance of all faults.
Third eye and crown are also directly related to depression because Depression correlates to our Belief system. The Crown is about our faith, our spirituality, our belief not just in the universe but also in ourselves, our god essence. The Third eye is our inner sight of our mind’s eye, when these are unstable we can find it hard to properly listen to our intuition because there is something you are not seeing, something is being blocked…Realistically Depression on the chakras is very powerful because depression is linked to our emotional body when our emotional body is out of balance, our electromagnetic frequency can go off kilter causing a lot of issues. This is probably why it is hard to sleep as well, your body needs proper rest. When we don’t get enough sleep we can actually potentiate our ego because lack of rest can lower our cognitive function and understanding. Sleep deprivation isn’t pretty, it makes even our closest friend turn into our enemy. 
So personally i would start by getting some proper rest, try  some chamomile tea and placing an amethyst under your pillow before bed. 🙂
Some Crystals that may help:
Citrine – Mental clarity, empowers the will, strengthens the mind
Yellow calcite – a very happy stone, it lifts the mood, enables self-confidence and really works on the solar plexus plus combines the properties of calcite. It’s a very transformative stone for the Ego.
Lepidolite – the peace stone, everyone could use some lepidolite in their life. I like to slip some lepidolite in my purse for good luck on bad days because it always helps the day run smoother. Good for tranquility and meditation
Rose Quartz – my favorite love stone for the heart. it has helped me time and time again on my own journey so i always recommend it for the heart.
Green calcite – Brings emotional balance,  i’m crazy about the calcites
Apophyllite – higher vibrational but there is magic in this stone, it helps with awakening while being gentle on the soul. It helps release negative thought patterns that may be holding you back.
Selenite – good for healing and immensely good for working on the Crown/belief system. 
 i know you have the strength to overcome this because you are willing to grow and you are also willing to fight for happiness. You can do this, this is a matter of personal will, strength, courage, self-love, determination, take it slow if you have to but i promise you if you start simply by staring into the mirror and saying ” i look good today” you are already giving yourself an energy boost. Find yourself again, find your happiness to find the freedom within you and let your light shine through that darkness. Because we all know even through the darkest night, the stars will still shine their brightest light <3 

I really hope this helps you find peace again

I send love and healing light to you through this hard time <3

Ash

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Ashley is the founder of The Awakened State, where she helps others understand the process of Kundalini Awakening through tools, exercises & personal experience. Her mission is to guide others to discover their unlimited potential and how we can move beyond our fears to create New Empowered Paradigms. She teaches others to Dismantle Resistance,Live Beyond Fear and Start Awakening Their Inner Creator. When she’s not blogging,she’s netflixing with her man or playing with her two crazy little ones.
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