Twin flame problems

I’m not very good at asking for help…
I feel like I found my twin flame – we’ve been together for almost a year – but every couple weeks I get really depressed. I don’t want to interact with him, or anyone else. He’s the closest person to me. I feel like nobody else likes me, ever agrees with me, listens to me, etc. As a result, I just want to be alone. I want to finish school and wake up more. I’ve been trying to find myself for the last couple years after getting arrested and stuff. It effects me and my “twin flame’s” relationship. I stop talking to him and want more time to myself. He always tells me that I’m the girl version of him but it’s really hard for me to accept that because he’s different than anyone I’ve ever dated. He’s the first person I’ve dated in two and a half years. Our relationship is based off feeling rather than looks. My family loves him but even I’m completely different than any girl he’s ever brought home. I don’t think his family likes me very much.
We won’t be able to move out together for another year and a half to two years and that kills me. I can’t decide what I want, to be with him or not. I can’t bare knowing that I’m dragging him along with me when he thinks I’m the one. I can’t have him the way I want. I know I’m being selfish. I’m only 20, I’m still so young. How do I know if he’s the one or if I do leave him, I’m not making the worst choice of my life. I don’t even like doing anything physical that’s how much I like not sharing myself. I guess what I’m trying to say is, I need help figuring out my path. My love for him and depression both feel like they’re coming from my heart chakra, and I can’t decide which path will make me happiest. Being single or trying to stay with someone for the rest of my life because they could “possibly” be my twin flame. Another problem with this is that he wants me to be only his for forever, but I feel like I will meet other twin flames on higher dimensions, after I ascend, that will help me grow. How can I be committed to someone for forever when deep inside me I know there’s more people I’m meant to connect with one day?

— hippie-bittie I can feel you on the fence about this situation and ultimately i can’t tell you this answer because this is your heart not mine. However speaking from a general point of view, you have to decide with yourself if he is worth the fight. I mean you are young and maybe what is happening by telling you that he only wants you forever is putting you in a very ‘caged’ situation which it doesn’t have to feel that way if you truly love that person. But for you it sounds like you need to grow and communicate with him on this. Maybe tell him that in speaking that way you seem like you’re moving too fast. It’s like the guy who speaks on marriage when you just knew him for only a year. I believe any relationship really needs to grow and thrive before you consider these things. You want to know your partner inside and out. It sounds to me like he is honestly happy in love and in that whole ‘top of the world everything is right feeling’ but deep down you aren’t….You have to be honest with yourself and with him that’s truly how a relationship works. I mean it’s about communication and honesty, why are you telling me these things? you really need to be communicating with him or write it down in a letter how you feel and what you feel is best. Maybe you just need some space or maybe you just need a break or maybe you just need to tell him to turn down this whole” omg let’s get married, i love you forever” vibe. Sometimes honesty hurts but it is what is needed. Relationships are built in the NOW and you have to realize that if you are ‘waiting’ for something then maybe you do need to reconsider your relationship. I wouldn’t bank anything on ‘ascending’ because that is a shift of your mind. Ascension is a different state of the mind it’s not about something in the future, it’s about learning that you are ascending NOW. So if you are stuck under the notion that you are waiting for your twin flame to appear or you are waiting for whoever to appear, your mind is not focused on the present anymore.

Truly relationships are about love, honesty and communication. It’s not only about the love of the other person it’s also about loving yourself to attract that love back into your life. So if we are still soul searching we are not being true to ourselves. Relationships are a two way street, it’s about self love and giving that love back in return, flow and energy. If there is not the flow of energy, it means there is a block from something that is holding you back. You need to find out for yourself by listening to your heart and communicating with him about these issues.

I cannot tell you the answer to this, it’s your choice and yours alone. I hope this at least helps you ponder about things differently

much love and healing <3

Ash

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Ashley is an Empowerment Coach, Spiritual Mindset & Manifesting Teacher.Creator & Mastermind behind The Awakened State. A place of Empowerment to Heal & Manifest a Soul-Aligned Life. She Supports people on energy work, manifestation, mind body healing, kundalini awakening, subconscious reprogramming & moving into a place of emotional empowerment to own your power. She teaches others to Dismantle Resistance, Live Beyond Fear and Start waking up their Manifesting Potential through mind-body healing. Her Mission is to Help Others Empower their Life & guide them towards their own Personal Alignment. When she’s not blogging, she’s Netflixing with her man, loves baking from pinterest recipes or playing with her two little ones.

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