So I love my boyfriend, I do, but we don’t get to see each other very often and hes a hopeless romantic.): I dont want to be alone, I feel like I could use a little more romance in my life but its something that he doesn’t seem to really provide. Things just seem to be restricting us, like time. We are both at very busy points in our life, and I get easily stressed about everything. Any advice would probably be helpful..
Well stress and business doesn’t exactly say romance…We all have busy lives but we have to also learn balance and play. This is why i refuse to be a workaholic, it isn’t worth it. you need to have your time together. you have to have time to unwind and you always need time for play to be yourself without worrying about a job, school, mundane things because what really matters is the things we hold close to our hearts.
If you’re both busy a lot of the time, try to find a day where you can either take a day off or simply just spend time together. Between school and work for me(well until now lol), making time together is tough but my boyfriend and i manage it all the same. It’s truly about communication and making the effort, if you want it bad enough you can make it happen. It’s totally off topic but i love the musician Tori Amos and she always said that even between tour schedules, interviews, press, etc. she always managed to find time for her lover. If that meant traveling by jet to meet up for the night after the show and being with each other for four hours, it was still time together and I always thought that was kinda sexy and romantic. Anyway…
Work on de-stressing your life and also work on planning date nights because it sounds like you guys need one. if that means a simple cuddling on the couch watching movies from an exhausted day after work or going out to lunch together or whatever. I’m always on a budget so Adam and I try to get creative with ideas, like making dinner together, going to the beach, walking around in parks after dark or whatever, but make time together all the same.
Don’t make excuses concerning ‘time’, time is illusion and you’re too propelled in ego thoughts of stress and worry to even spend time with your man or vice versa with him. So truly rethink your thoughts, if you want romance tell him, not me. if you want a date night, tell him. Communication and honesty is key to a good relationship, just tell him the truth from the heart. if there’s a will there is always a way 😉
hope things work out for ya
much love and healing light <3
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