why cant i have an orgasm with my partner? i can on my own, and im confused about that because im so in love with him. is this because one of my chakras are blocked?
As being a previous psych major, i would say this is moreso psychological than anything however everything connects to the other. It’s a thought form that caused this, it could be a number of things, something happened in your past, sexual repression, anxieties about sex, I can’t really pinpoint it because i’m not you but what some things i can suggest is working on your sacral Chakra. because you’re right it could be blocked.
Our Sacral Chakra governs our emotions, balance of polarity, creativity and sexual organs.The chakra is represented by the orange Svadhistthana mandala (ones own place), the element of water and it is also symbolised by a fish. It is the source of creativity and inspiration. The second chakra is the foundation of the emotional body, it influences our ability to feel emotions, sensations and atmospheres, and controls our ability to let go of our emotions. The second chakra influences our sexuality and sensuality, physical force, sexual and ardent love, open-mindedness, our ability to yield and cooperating amicably with other people.This chakra physically influences the lower abdomen, spleen, liver, bladder, kidneys, sexual organs, reproduction and fertility. When the sacral plexus chakra is performing correctly, the person will feel healthy, open, friendly, imaginative and creative which helps us to focus on our objectives. The person will have concerns for others as it promotes tolerance and patience which in turn helps us to relate with others in a positive manner. When this chakra is balanced it encourages intuition, a good frame of mind, energy and success. It helps you to learn from our experiences whether they be successes or failures providing us with the focus we need for our ambitions.If this chakra is not working properly it cause negative influences in the physical, this is seen in the form of emotional problems or sexual guilt, and excesses in food, sex and drugs. If this chakra is not working properly it creates negative influences in the physical this is seen in the form of bladder infections, impotence or frigidity and problems with the reproductive organs and fertility. If this chakra has too much energy moving through it, we may become self-centred and too ambitious, jealous, distrusting and cold. If too little energy is flowing then we may become shy, hyper-sensitive, untrusting, confused, uncertain, with a growing feeling of aimlessness to our life.
Unblocking & balancing aids to help realign the second or sacral plexus chakra –
here’s some info on sacral blocks and how to heal:
Also since i’m betting this is an anxiety thing, i would just try to relax. From personal experience if your partner loves you and you love him, just tell him honestly that you want to take it slow, ease into it. You should also look into the beauty of Tantra, i think it would really help you. Tantra teaches you that sex is not about orgasm its about lovemaking and connecting through a deep soul connection with one another.
Practice relaxing, start slow, i don’t know if you smoke the ganja or not but sometimes smoking weed helps with the anxieties, but anyway just take it slow, cuddle, kiss, makeout, foreplay, ease into sex. The fact that you can have an orgasm by yourself indicates to me that this has to be an issue of ego as well. clear those thoughts, soak into the moment, don’t worry about placing arms or legs in certain spots or whatever, just relax and flow. become water. move like water moves and slowly ease yourself into one another. I would also try doing the lotus position, it’s very intimate and helps the kundalini rise which also helps enable orgasm. Also i highly suggest don’t go into sex with the mindset that orgasm is the goal, go into the mindset that loving and caressing your partner in the moment and relax. Lose yourself within the moment <3
I hope that helps and works out for you, i never thought id’ be a sex therapist on the side 😛